One of the fears I had when I quit my job to be a full time stay at home mom was that my brain would start to turn to mush. At first I was too overwhelmed to even worry about the fact that I hadn’t watched the evening news in weeks or that I hadn’t read a book in months. I was lucky to have my two feet under me, to be able to keep these two boys fed, dry and clothed, and to keep the house in a semi-decent livable condition.

It’s been about six months since I left work and now I am fearing that my mind is turning to mush. Take this afternoon for example….

I haven’t been feeling well today, so when my husband got home from work I asked him to take care of the boys while I took a bath. I thought I would be able to relax a bit and get recharged to get the boys ready for bed and the house cleaned up after dinner. He kindly took over the feeding duties while I slipped away for half an hour to myself.

I broke out some of the good bubble bath, filled the tub up to the top and stepped in to enjoy myself. A song started going through my head. I wasn’t sure what it was at first, I just kind of went along with it, and then I realized the unthinkable. I could have been humming along with any song in the world, and The Wiggles song “Dorothy’s Dance Party” is going through my head. What has happened to me?

Have I lost my identity as an almost 40 year old well educated woman? Am I becoming too absorbed in my kids’ lives? Or am I just worrying about nothing? How many times in our lives do we get a tune stuck in our heads? Maybe it’s a commercial or the theme song to a television show, it doesn’t matter. So what if I hear Wiggles music when I’m not with the kids. Maybe that makes me a better parent, because I try to learn what my kids like and enjoy it with them.