A pet is like a member of the family. Anyone who has owned a pet will agree that the loss of a pet was one of the hardest times in their lives – and this is when you ask an adult. How can you help your child cope with the loss of a pet?

First, acknowledge your child’s feelings. Don’t use euphemisms when speaking about what happened – it’s ok to use the word “died”. If you say the pet has “gone to sleep” or “passed on” your child might become confused and then when it is time for your child to take a nap he or she might be scared to go to sleep because they might not come back.

If your pet is ill and it is possible to do so, try and prepare your child for the pet’s imminent death. Let your child know that every living thing has a beginning and an end. This won’t make it any easier when the pet dies, but it might help your child be a tiny bit prepared.

If you think it will help, have a small memorial service for the pet. This helps to bring closure for your child. Answer any questions they might have as openly and as honestly as possible, but in an age appropriate manner.

To help in the mourning process, have your child remember all the good memories about their pet. You can frame a photo together, or have them make a picture to remember their beloved pet.

Don’t tell your child that you’ll get a new pet to replace the pet that has died. This only distracts the child from the mourning he or she needs to do. This will not encourage the child or make the mourning process go any quicker or smoother. Pets are a member of the family and your child needs to mourn before he or she is ready to get a new pet.

No matter what, acknowledge the loss. Your child is sure to notice if his or her dog is no longer in the house. Answer any questions, give the child time to mourn and support them in their grief.